If you are a lesbian and you are just coming out, you will discover that dating is a whole new experience from what you may be used to with men. One of the differences is in reading the signs that a woman is interested in you. This is important because, unlike heterosexual dating, you or the other woman will be responsible for initiating the date. No more waiting for the guy to take the initiative! Like anything in life, this has its good and bad points. On the one hand, you don’t have to sweat out waiting to see if he will ask you out. On the other hand, you will experience all the anxiety and fear of rejection that men have traditionally had to put up with.
Now, back to the subject of this article. You may think you know everything there is to know about female attraction, since you are a female. Well, maybe, but in our society you have only been conditioned to interact with men on this level, not women. So determining if a woman is interested in you may be more difficult than you think. For one thing, men tend to be more overt. For another, if you are meeting a woman in a social context that is heterosexual (in other words, NOT in a gay bar or online dating site) you may not know if she is interested in you as a straight friend or as a lesbian love interest. Since 98% of the population is straight, guess what the odds are? Still, it does happen and you need to be able to figure it out! Here are some signs:
One final word. A woman who is attracted to you may never have experienced these feelings before. She may be confused and afraid of these feelings. She may even be involved in a heterosexual relationship or married. Often times these feelings occur as a relationship progresses from acquaintance to “best friend.” With most women, feelings of attraction stop at “best friend,” but lesbians will continue to bond past that point into romantic love.