The word gay can refer to homosexual men or it can refer to all homosexuals. I prefer the latter, because LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transsexual community) sounds like a new kind of drug. It also does not flow of the tongue like the word “gayyy“. Without stepping on anybody’s toes, and I know for a fact that all my lesbian friends agree with me on this, I do not like the word lesbian, it just doesn’t sound right. To me, lesbian is like faggot and dike; its okay if we use the words, but lightly offensive in the mouth of a homophobic person. I just do not like these terms, but I know it’s just me.
I realize that some of the girls might think that gay is a term like “man”, you know something like: “man survived the second world war”, as if the female are incorporated when you talk about the male. But in my mind Gay just refers to that secretive thing we all share. That “gayety” behind seeing somebody in the bank that you saw at the club last night and she knows that you know that she knows exactly what you know. Such fun, being gay and that is why the word gay, playfulness, secretive and joyful fits the profile of the whole LGBT community.
There are certain similarities, but we are also total opposites, aren’t we? The old saying comes to mind:
Drag is when a man wears everything a lesbian won’t.
So similar in theory and yet total opposites in likes, dislikes and temperament. What then, is the relationship between us all? Is it the persecution, the sameness of loving your own gender or do we share that intrinsic “gayness” that I mentioned earlier?
Maybe it is like the Ficus and the Ficus wasp, or in general terms, the fig and the fig wasp. A fig wasp is a fig trees biggest enemy because it is a parasite and if there are too many your fig tree will only give you fruit that has gone bad. The fig wasp is also the fig tree’s best friend, because it helps with pollination. There are many kinds of fig trees and not all of them needs pollination through fig wasps or even pollination at all, but most of them need the fig wasp to promulgate. So there you have it, an unnatural alliance between the fig tree and the fig wasp.
To make it more interesting the fig wasp is also the insect that can spread the furthest of them all. It is also not interested in other trees only in the fig tree; hence the name. Fig wasps aren’t all the same. You get two groups, the ones that pollinate and the ones that does not; the parasites and the ones that helps the fig tree to spread. The female wasp will crawl into the young fruit, losing her wings on the way to the center and then she lays her eggs and dies. When the eggs hatch the male will mate with the female larvae. The male does not have any wings and therefore he can not survive long after he left the fruit. He mates and then he crawls out, making way for the female to exit without also losing her wings. She then flies to the next tree, crawl in, loses her wings and the whole process starts all over again.
The guys never get wings and never get to see the world. The girls have the advantage of seeing more of the world, but also not for long.
My comparison is not between the guy and girl wasps, but between the wasp and the fig. Without the fig the wasp will not be able to survive, because it uses only the fig tree and nothing else. The fig tree on the other hand will not be able to spread without the wasp and although some figs do not need the wasp, most of them do. A symbiosis of life, they need each other even though they are not alike, they need each other even though they are enemies (seen from a certain perspective), they need each other and nobody else can fill the need.
It is vital for many, many species that the fig tree must survive. It has been one of the first fruit ever to be bred for agriculture, many birds find their source of calcium only from figs, there are more fig trees than most other species. The fig tree is without a doubt essential for life on earth and the fig wasp is essential for the life of the fig tree.
Chances are that you have never seen a fig wasp, because for the largest part of its life-cycle it lives within a fig and yet this little insect is vital for life on earth and it has been vital for the last 80 million years. Try that on for size. A little wasp that would not draw our attention for one second is vital on earth and it has been from long before human beings walked on this earth. In his mighty wisdom, the Creator made this little insect for a reason so great that you and I can not even grasp its significance.
Back to dikes and faggots; if the Creator had a very good reason for making fig wasps, don’t you think he had just as good a reason, to make us? Even though a faggot is pansy-pink and a dike is butch-brown we need each other, don’t we? There is a relationship important enough for our survival to work together. Even though we do not like the same things, we do not look the same, we do not act the same, we have many things that we do have in common.
The first is that we fall for our own gender and that makes us outcasts; not very important for the rest of humanity. Secondly, we fight the same battle of being different from the average and being rejected for that. Thirdly we can not have children in the “normal” way and that makes us unimportant for mankind’s survival, that is, from a heterosexual perspective. For the majority of humankind we are abnormal, against nature, disgusting, unacceptable and pointless in the order of things. We share hatred, rejection, persecution and discrimination. We might not be sexually interested in one another, but we are family, brothers and sisters. Like family we do not always see eye to eye, but blood is thicker than water, God knows we will stick together. Lastly, and maybe the one that really connects us, even though we doubt it ourselves, the Creator in his wisdom made us for some reason vital for the survival of life on earth. I know that, because he made everything for that reason.