Gender identity and sexual preference are not a choice. Being who you are, you do not choose to be gay, lesbian, transgender, or bisexual. It’s not something you choose. Your sexual identity is a discovery of who you are as an individual. It’s how God made you.
For some, it’s an easy decision. They feel their identity as a male or a female and feel a strong attraction to the same sex. It’s not like they wake up on a Tuesday morning and say “you know what today I’m gay.” It’s a dawning of awareness. It’s like the peeling back of the layers of an onion. As you peel back those layers, you discover more and more about yourself- who you are, what you like, what you don’t like, what makes you happy, and what makes you sad.
It’s a discovery, being gay or a lesbian is not a choice. And coming from the faith community, it’s a discovery of who God made you to be. For some, they feel that they are trapped in a body that doesn’t match the person and the feelings inside. These people feel strong feelings from their bodies that don’t correspond with outside appearance. The transgender community wrestles with this complex process.
As a gay or lesbian youth, you may have feelings that you don’t understand. You may not “get it”. You’re accustomed to seeing images of heterosexual relationships in society, male and female dating, and you think that’s how you should be, but it’s okay. Remember, discovering your sexual identity can be a fun and exhilarating process, it doesn’t have to be traumatic or sad- you can have fun with it. Discover who the creature is that God made you to be. Make it enjoyable and enjoy life.
You are a gift to the world. You need to celebrate who you are. It’s a celebration of God’s wonderful creation and you, and God loves you regardless of your sexual identity or sexual preference. Sexual preference is kind of a strange phrase because it is a little more complicated since it’s not like choosing your favorite ice cream is chocolate or ice cream or whether you like pizza or sushi more.
It’s all about peeling back the layers of your identity and discovering yourself. Life is a journey of self-discovery and knowledge and you can rest safely knowing that God will always love you.