Everyday I practice kindness, meditation and prayer. I am not particularly religious or empathetic like some nun but I find my serenity and peace in those three actions. It is in those moments I often find my answers to life and its importance.
Why should you care about what I do? You shouldn’t, you definitely do not need to as that is a choice. CHOICE. What a word. There are days I hate that word, especially when those around me have absolutely no idea how to practice it. Everyday I am confronted by the challenge of making choices, the right ones of course and yet everyday I meet people or receive emails that share little acknowledgement of the very thing that makes us human, that gives us will power. Yes the will to have power to change our course, to make things right, and have a new start.
I find people are so terrified by this knowledge that they would rather give their power to others or choose not to practice it all. For example staying in a relationship for years even though it’s a mediocre comfort, its safe rather than CHOOSE to be with someone that loves you fully completely or even embrace being single. When I ask people “why don’t you try something different? You’re living half a life! Don’t you want to feel safe and at the same time experience daily passion and love by another?” the sad response is often “This is all I know” or “She knows me its safe” or my favorite “it will be different this time.”
Choosing is not always about standing still and letting the ground swallow you whole. Choosing often means knowing when to let go and set yourself on a different path as frightening as that may seem and as lonely as you may not want to feel. How else would growth happen? How else would you ever learn of love, compassion, trust and friendship? You learn things through change, you learn often through suffering and pain because the discomfort is enough to project you out of the shell or cocoon you have grown to big for.
Please, please my Loves don’t settle. Never settle! Life is short and yes there are many people worth fighting for but there are equally many that need to be set free. You need to surrender your pride and fears and release what has never been yours to begin with. How do you know it’s not yours? Well because nothing is. Everything is an experience that we share with others and the universe.
Live fully and completely. Wake up every morning with the power that today is the day for change to practice happiness and love through decisions and choices you make. Take responsibility for your life and be empowered.
Change. Here is how or at least a start:
You are amazing! No one could tell me any different. I don’t care what you have done in your past I only care what you will do with your future. You are amazing! Because out of all the sperm that shot out of your dad you are the one that won the race. You are amazing! Because out of the nine months it takes to create a life you survived. You are amazing! Because you got through childhood and adolescence the hardest stage of development and keep on moving and growing. You are amazing and I want to thank you for your life and presence because without you I wouldn’t be here too because you are my doctor, nurse, waitress, chef, courier, police office, plumber, cashier, banker, a person I share space with.
You are amazing and I need you so transform into who you want to be so you can share that feeling of how amazing you are with me.
Alex Karydi~The Lesbian Guru