The recent vote in Australia on the same-sex marriage proves the point that one cannot depend on the masses to bring about sanity into this world. It also proves the point that politicians will do anything to buy votes and one cannot depend on the politicians to lead us to improve the mental health of society. Yes whoever said that “The voice of the people is the voice of God” in my mind must have been a politician.
You see I have nothing against same-sex marriage. Yes, as far as I am concerned, same-sex couples should be entitled to the same privileges as the heterosexual couples. But they should use a different label for their union. Why? Because the way we use words in our mind has a direct effect on our mental health and the way we feel.
The word ‘marriage’ implies a union of a male and female. If we include same-sex couples in this definition we are redefining marriage and creating a contradiction. Now contradiction is always bad for our mental health. It distorts our perceptions. It is like a bug in the computer program which leads the program to crash.
Please let me explain how words affect our perceptions.
Now everyone knows what the word ‘accident’ means. It is an unhappy event that can occur to anyone at any time and any place no matter how much care and precaution one might take. It is in fact never a preventable event when it occurs. All accidents are therefore unpreventable. Yet in hindsight all accidents are preventable.
So when we use the term ‘preventable accident’ the words instantly distort our perceptions. And we may respond with ‘You should not have done that’. However, the person who was involved in the accident knows he should not have done that and is left with the consequences. It was truly an accident.
Please let give you another example in society today of how the word ‘self-regulation’ has been corrupted and distorted the perceptions of medical and other professionals to include regulating oneself on behalf of the government or some other higher authority. Self-regulation in my mind means regulating oneself from within without outside help or coercion. How can anyone protect their own professional interest if they are going to work for an outside body doing the dirty job for them? Clearly there is a conflict of interest involved. It is a mentally sick role of Porky Pig selling pork chops and pork sausages on behalf of the government. Do you consider it an acceptable position?
Hence may I appeal to all my learned friends and politicians that if you care about improving the mental health of society, please do not create more contradictions? Why not use a different label for same-sex marriage and I am sure majority will have no objection to what is being proposed?